One of our main goals here in this blog is to help fellow women heal from quite literally anything that has happened in their lives and to help each other grow. We truly hope our posts so far have been helpful to anyone that might have needed them.

Anyways, what can I say about the process of healing? Well, it can be a very painful process depending on what you need to heal from, but it is also very rewarding. It definitely doesn’t seem too worth it during it, but you feel so glad you went through all the steps once you are all healed. Here are some things you need to know about the healing process.

1 Allow yourself some wallowing time

You can’t begin healing if you don’t let yourself feel the hurt for a little bit. This is the time in which you need to accept what you have been through and that it’s not something you can change. We have to be careful not to spend so much wallowing that we fall into a depression or into a dark period. This honestly might be the hardest part of the healing process as it is mostly when you think about the situation – what happened, how you feel, your anger, your grief. But you need to go through it before you can actually start to heal. It unfortunately is part of the process.

2 You need to have patience

No one likes going through painful moments, and we usually pray that they are over as soon as possible, which is understandable. But have you ever heard the saying “time heals all”? As much as it might not be what you want to hear, it’s true. It would be wonderful if there were a magical potion that could heal all our wounds instantly, but there isn’t. We need to have the patience to go through the motions of healing until we actually heal. I wish I could tell you an estimation of how long it might take, but it depends on the person and on the situation.

3 It’s important to find your support system

The tricky part of human nature is that we often don’t want to show our weaknesses to anyone. As much as it might hurt your pride to seek comfort in another person, it is important for you to have a support system around you while you are healing. I’m not saying to be around them all the time but knowing who you can call when you need a shoulder to cry on, to vent to, to just listen to you scream, or whatever else you might need. Feeling isolated while going through a painful moment can be detrimental to the healing process. Don’t be ashamed to reach out to people that care about you to help you heal. If they really care, they won’t judge you and will be there the moment you call.

4 Consider seeking help

Some cultures and egos might not be a fan of this step, but it is very necessary. I have personally been in and out of therapy since I was 13 and it has helped me a lot. Some issues are more difficult to heal from on our own and having a professional help us in the process can be very helpful. Not only because they have tools to help in the process but also because they are there to listen and help you, sans judgment. There are some things your support system won’t be able to help you with. Having a good therapist can be very helpful in the healing process.

5 Know the pain won’t always fade completely

Now, I know most of you will not like what I have to say now. Even once we heal from the situation, there are some specific situations that will always leave a tinge of hurt behind, that will sometimes hurt. Whatever we go through influences who we are, and maybe once every year, if you think about it, it will still hurt a little. It will not be as hurtful as before, it might be one thousandth of the original pain, but it will be there.

by Bruna Gorresio